Mother’s Day or Kid’s Day? Hmmm…..

For Mother’s Day every year, I try to relax and enjoy myself.  It’s my holiday, right?  Out of 365 days in a year, I take time off from parental duty on my birthday and Mother’s Day.  Well, I still make meals and do maybe a load of laundry (reluctantly, of course) but I have coffee in bed (delivered to me by two of the cutest room service attendants ever – my kids!) and I only do things with them that day that I want to do. And trust me, this is totally out of the norm. I have been known to throw out a whole schedule of chores or plans to accommodate an impromptu request to go to the beach or the mall.

In any event, the day before I prepare my children for my mini-holiday by requesting they tell me any errands they need done so I can totally enjoy a day without my things-to-do list. I don’t need fancy presents or dinners out; I just require peace and quiet.  I love the gifts they make at school and treasure those always.  Truth be told, they have more meaning than a store bought item and I think most people would agree on that.  This year as I am giving my speech about how Mother’s Day is like my birthday, my son Zachary chimes in, “That’s not fair that you get a special day.  We don’t get a holiday.  We should get a Kid’s Day!”  This was said so innocently that I had to laugh.  “What Zac?  Are you serious?  Every day is kid’s day,”  I replied.  He retorted, “No, it isn’t.”  Say what? 

I have given some thought to his request for a special holiday.  Sometimes I chuckle to myself and other times, I shake my head in disbelief.  As children, we have no concept of how good we have it.  No one’s childhood is perfect but it is certainly more carefree than being an adult, for the most part.  I caught sight of the paper bouquet that he made for me last Mother’s Day and read his answers to the writing prompts again.  I thought of him working away at his desk at school, trying so hard to come up with answers that would please me.  Maybe he is on to something with a day that celebrates kids?  Maybe we should skip all the formality and just enjoy each other each and every day….all of it….the pranks, the complaints, the calls from the principal’s office (trust me, there is little joy in these).  One prank I won’t forget is when my two kids secretly and vigorously shook a bottle of cranberry ginger ale and then asked for a glass.  Had I been remotely astute, I would have seen the mischievous grins and glances to one another.  Of course, when I opened it, red liquid exploded everywhere and I mean everywhere!  And yes, my kitchen is white.  They were in total hysterics.  With ginger ale drenching my hair, shirt, cabinets, all I could do was hear their laughter and I started laughing and said,  “Good one.  That was clever.”  Enjoy your special day and every day as a mother!  Happy Mother’s Day!

Words of sweetness and sincerity

Words of sweetness and sincerity

 

 

New collaboration with yellowbrick.me

Hello dear followers, I have entered into a new collaboration with the fine folks at yellowbrick.me and I am sharing my first post from them!  It is about healthy eating and juicing, which you all know is near and dear to me. If you read it, which I highly recommend that you do, you will know that I didn’t write it, because it mentions a husband and I don’t have one (not yet anyway!).  However, I did make a long-term commitment to a blender and it has been a happily-ever-after juicing story.  Enjoy this piece and try the recipe!

Healthy Eating: A delicious way to keep your family healthy!

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I posted a carrot-based juice recipe this past Sunday and got some great responses to it.  This makes me really happy.  It means that I’m not wasting my time blogging. Also, it means that I’m helping other families with their healthy eating!  This is really important to me; healthy eating is a lifestyle, rather than just a response to guilt from a bad week of snacking.  Juicing has been one of the ways to keep a healthy eating lifestyle maintained with as little fuss as possible.  I’d like to share another inspiration that I had yesterday.  This one comes in the form of a beet-based juice.  For those wary of the mess: just be tidy, this one’s worth it!

Healthy Eating:  Beautiful Ginger Beetroot

  • 1 beet, washed, peeled and diced to size
  • 1 apple (I prefer Granny Smith), washed
  • Between ½ and 1 whole Tbsp of fresh ginger
  • 2-4 medium sized carrots, washed and skinned
  • DRINK FRESH!  This fresh vegetable juice has no preservatives, which means the beautiful concoction you’ve just made will spoil easily.  Serve it up and make use of all those raw nutrients!
Healthy eating has never been so easy.  This particular juice recipe is sure to tantalize the taste buds of any family member.  My husband’s eyes light up almost as much as my kid’s when he hears our juicer whirring!  Honestly, I might have to start making this one by the gallon.  Beets, while they can be messy if not handled properly, are an amazing source of nutrients.  Most of us don’t get enough of these minerals in our diets and opt for daily multivitamins.  I prefer to get my nutrients from raw and whole sources when possible, so the fact that this tasty recipe helps me do so is another reason to keep making it – enjoy!
This post has been provided by Yellowbrick an online educational community for parents.
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The weight of the matter

Weight is a big deal in our society, right?  We are on what seems like an eternal quest for the perfect figure.  More than a year ago and a few extra pounds, I wrote a piece called ‘Thin as a rail’.  It is linked here but the main idea was that when I was heavier, most people did not mention my weight.  The person (a stranger, actually) in the ‘Thin’ piece just had no filter, shall I say?  However, now that I have lost weight, it is essentially a free-for-all of weight comments from anyone who is in the mood to make a comment.  Some people act like they are genuinely concerned about me. And maybe they are.  I also realize this may not always be the case.  I just don’t say anything.  Are you feeling okay?  You have lost a lot of weight, huh?  Others say something caustic like You could afford to eat a sandwich, if I order a soup, for example.  And the same people mention my weight every time they see me.  They often depart with the words, Don’t lose any more weight!  Oh, okay, thank you….just for you, I won’t.

The truth of it is why does anyone care what I weigh?  Who cares?  I don’t care what anyone else weighs.  I don’t even know what I weigh.  Or when the last time was that I weighed myself.  And just to set the record straight:  I don’t have an eating disorder, I am not sick and no, I am not on a diet.  There.  I got that off my chest.  I feel better.  Well, not really.  Because I guess what bothers me the most about weight talk is that I wonder if we all forget about the person inside the body.  Whether I am heavy or thin, I am still Mary.  And I have feelings and a heart.  And a brain.  At least I don’t think I gave birth to my brain when I had children.  My Dad tells me repeatedly and I know I have told you before, “Mary, in one ear and out the other.” He says this in his stern, gravelly voice and I can hear it in my head.  This is sage advice from a man almost 85 years old who seems unfazed by careless comments that come his way but for me and I am sure many of you, insensitive comments still travel through our brains and often the comments or behavior of others sits there longer than we would like.

So as I sit here sipping coffee from a mug with the inscription ‘Let it go’, I guess I am going to have to do just that.  Let it go.  However, I am almost wishing I had a ‘Let it fester’ version!  I recently told a friend how I felt in regard to this subject and she replied, “Don’t be so sensitive”.  Ha!  That’s a good one.  I do not consider myself sensitive.  I worked for years in the business of advertising.  I am raising two children alone; one is a teenager (need I say more?). I was raised in an Irish home.  And I could go on and on.  But I won’t.  I would be a human piece of Swiss cheese if I let everything get to me.  Wouldn’t we all?  So what things are people saying about you that bother you? Please weigh in and let me know.  Because the weight of the matter is really the heart of the matter.  Hmmmm.  Food for thought.  No pun intended.  Seriously.  Until next time…..

See? I don't look like Swiss cheese, right?

See? I don’t look like Swiss cheese, do I?